We just had the social worker come today to update our home study.
Yesterday, I felt sad that it had been so long that paperwork "expires". I didn't think we would have gotten to this point.
But today after she left- I feel a bit closer to our adoption. It seemed a little more real again. I know that sounds crazy but talking with someone who helps make it "official" was ok.
Her agency does all types of adoptions. She didn't say that much about China. We did mention that this is longer than we thought going into it. She said that she just signed someone on for China and made sure they understood that it maybe a 3 year wait.
She did mention too that the few China adoptions they were doing have switched to other countries. We are also using another agency that specializes only in china adoption but need this local agency to do our home study. This local group will also be responsible for our post placement paperwork.
And overall, we are once again "good people" to adopt on paper! Whew!
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Us too. She was here on Saturday. She mentioned the 'dropouts' too. But I keep seeing people doing dual adoptions, very few drop out all together. She did ask me to look at my little girl and say, "If you had waited three years for her, would it have mattered?" A truly aggravating question, and not very tactful given my current mental state, but the question would still be answered "No, it wouldn't have mattered."
It's reassuring to have it confirmed officially that you haven't 'turned bad' over the past year!
Yes, we thought we were so smart going with a China only agency......they'd really know their stuff
which they do
but it leaves one completely stuck
We are updating as we speak. Only to have to do this next year as well. There are not enough 'sucks' in the english lanuage to describe the feeling.
Must be reassuring to know that you are still "good" people! It's maddening isn't it?!
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